Feminist Friday: Stop the Slut-Shaming

Friday, December 12, 2014

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 Stop the Slut-Shaming
Think before you speak.

What is a slut?

Honestly, take a moment to think about this one. I know a particular girl comes to mind when you hear the word, but how would you put the definition into words? Can you even do it?

My family tends to have controversial dinner debates during the rare times we all share a meal together. One of the debates we’ve had recently was when I asked my family to define a slut.

“Easy. A girl who has a lot of sex,” my brother said.

“What is a lot, though?” I asked. 

“I don’t know. A lot.”

He couldn’t give me a number.

“And what if this girl is only having sex with one person?” my father asked. “A slut is a girl who is having sex with multiple partners without building a relationship with the partners first. There’s usually alcohol involved.”

“Well, if there’s alcohol involved, don’t you think it’s kinda shitty to assume she’s a slut? I mean, that’s kinda perpetuating rape culture,” I said.

The conclusion of our discussion was this:

There isn’t a clear definition for slut. We’re conditioned to have an image come to mind when we hear the word, but we’re completely at loss when it comes to actually defining it.

So why do we continue to use the word? Why do we put a label on something we can’t even understand enough to define? Why do we group people into this hurtful category without getting to know them first?

At work, a customer with time to kill decided to tell me a story about his love life. He said his ex-girlfriend is a slut.

“What is a slut?” I asked him.

He gave me a wary smile.

“Oh, so you’re that kind of girl.”

Yeah, I am.

And I think we should all try to be that kind of people.


The kind of people who think before we speak.

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