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Friday, January 01, 2016

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2016: The Year of Genuine Connection

Happy New Year!

Today is my favorite holiday. I’m a fan of transformations, and never does the world see more potential for dramatic change than when another year comes to an end. I get swept up in the energy with the rest of the world every time, and I love it.

Yes, I make New Years Resolutions (who doesn’t?). But, yes, I actually stick with them.

I wrote on here last year about my plan for the year 2014, and discussed briefly my plans for 2015. Here’s what I came up with:

The Year Of Making It Happen (Fearlessly)

Prepared for: The Fearless Heart, Executive Director
Prepared by: Kayla Larissa Mathys, Senior Editor
December 7, 2014


To use Kayla’s fearless heart to make life happen: to love fully, honestly, and with an open heart; to open up to intimacy and commitment; to strengthen and enhance my writing career and ability; to achieve success in love and life, and to maintain a balance between the two.
Within the months of the current calendar year (2015), Kayla Larissa Mathys will use the skills, knowledge, and other assets gained in last year (2014)’s Year of You project to achieve open-hearted, honest success in life and love. She will open herself up to success, intimacy, commitment, honesty, and the truth of her existence. She must put herself out there, and prepare to reach her greatest potential.
Kayla must first open herself up to love. She will fearlessly and honestly bond with another person who brings out the best in her. The relationship will be healthy, honest, intimate, and faithful. This person will push her to achieve her dreams and become her best self. She will also strengthen and enhance her writing career. She will write the truth, and finish it to completion. She will put herself and her truth out there in as many ways possible. She will gain unlimited success with the gift of writing. With this newfound success in love and life, she will maintain a balance between love and life. She will keep in mind that love and life are one and the same. She will learn how to successfully make sacrifices without sacrificing herself, love, or her life.
Project Outline
One year broken into three four-month increments used to focus on the particular lesson at hand.
  • Love
  • Life (Career)
  • Balance


January 1, 2015-May 1, 2015
The Daily Questions
  • What is love? How can I create it?
  • Am I my honest self with this person?
  • How does this person bring out my best Self?

  • Answer the daily questions honestly and fearlessly.
  • Let go of anyone I cannot be honest with and/or anyone who does not bring out my best Self.
  • Fill each day with love and honest connection.

Life (Career)

May 1, 2015-September 1, 2015

The Daily Questions
  • What truth can I write today? What story demands to be told?
  • How can I improve my writing?
  • Where can my story be published? How can I share my truth with the world?
  • Who are my ideal readers? 
  • Why am I writing this story? Why does this truth need to be shared?

  • Realize that I am not perfect. Accept that fact, and improve.
  • Tell the truth, tell the truth, tell the truth. An honest story is a successful story.
  • Get published.
  • Keep my blog going.
  • Write. Everyday. Even something short and small. Every word matters.
  • Embrace struggle and discomfort. Know that I can do anything I set my mind to.


September 1, 2015-January 1, 2016

The Daily Questions
  • What matters most to me? Why?
  • How can I devote more time to what matters? How can I love more? How can I live more?

  • Keep my intentions clear, wholesome, and honest.
  • Maintain a balance between my love life and my career life.

Like 2014, I pretty much forgot all about these questions. But without trying, I accomplished the goals and objectives I set for the year. I experienced true commitment, love, and intimacy. I made myself completely vulnerable. I pursued my dream of getting published relentlessly, and achieved it on my own. And even through extreme loss and heartbreak, I was able to strengthen my fearless heart. So much so that last night I received the greatest compliment of the year when my best friend’s mother mentioned I had a spark in my eyes she’d never seen in me before, and she was glad I seemed to have found myself this year. 

Last year, I was a timid girl afraid of her own shadow. But last night, I was noticeably transformed.

However, I’m still glad to see the year come to an end. I’m ready for the next one.

I haven’t worked out all the details yet, but this year (2016) is going to be my Year of Genuine Connection. In general, that means I hope to further strengthen my relationships with others as well as the relationship I have with myself. I want to know myself and I want others to know me. So much of my life has been spent hiding from myself and hiding from the world. I’ve avoided getting too close to people, and I’ve avoided learning how to trust myself. But this year I hope to come up with a plan to finally transform the destructive habit of false connection. 

I also want to find a genuine connection with the world (or universe) in general. I consider myself a spiritual person, meaning I don’t subscribe to the rigid belief system of a single religion, but remain open-minded to all the explanations for life’s greater miracles. However, I can quickly go from feeling spiritual to feeling like I’m an actual spirit, adrift in the nothingness and feeling completely disconnected from everything and everyone. I want to find a spiritual connection that resembles more of an actual connection. Maybe I’ll pick a religion. Or maybe I’ll create my own. I don’t know yet, but I can’t wait to find out.

I’ll keep you posted. 

Consider it my first step toward the Year of Genuine Connection.

Happy 2016! 

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