Last summer, I went on a trip to Pensacola, Florida to connect IRL with some gaming friends who lived in the area as well as to reunite with old friends who lived out of state. 

The only other time I had been to Florida was for a family trip to Disney, and my impression of the state was not particularly positive. However, during my trip to Pensacola, I absolutely fell in love with the city–especially the white sand beaches of the glistening emerald coast and all the lush greenery in the surrounding areas. 

Ever since, I’ve been actively seeking out literature set in Florida with the hope I’ll be transported back to that feeling of wonder and awe for the Sunshine State that was awakened during my trip.

Which is initially what drew me to The Light Pirate when it popped up as one of my Book of the Month picks. 

What sold me, though, was the opening paragraph provided in the sample reading:

“Somewhere west of Africa, so far from land the sky is empty in all directions, a storm begins. The water is warm, the waves are high. The air is heavy with moisture. A breath of wind catches, then circles back, churning itself into something new: a closed circuit gathering power, tighter and tighter. In this way, the storm grows. It matures. Learns to hold a shape. The warm water feeds it, fattens it, then urges it westward. Electronic eyes watch as it skims across the Atlantic. Soon enough, it earns a name. Reports are written about its speed and size. Preparations are made. There are other storms in this ocean, other pockets of hot, moist wind and rain-heavy cloud. But this one–this one will outgrow them all.”

And so the story introduces us to Hurricane Wanda, the storm that will forever alter and define the lives of the main characters.

Written in third person and set in a not-so-distant future, the story first focuses on the perspectives of task-oriented lineman Kirby and his new, very pregnant wife Frida. After losing her mother in a devastating hurricane the year before, Frida has been struggling to keep her anxiety in check while Kirby has been struggling to juggle his responsibilities as the lead lineman responsible for keeping the electricity running in a town constantly pummelled by viscous storms; an understanding husband to his fretful new wife; and a father to his two boys staying with him for the summer, Lucas and Flip.

Their struggles come to a head when Lucas and Flip–hellbent on rebelling against the life their father is building with his new wife–decide to venture out in the thick of the storm while Kirby is at work and Frida is attempting to rest. When Kirby returns home and finds the boys missing, panic ensues as Kirby races to bring the boys home before the worst of the storm hits. Meanwhile, Frida–left behind in Kirby’s panic–finds herself enduring a pre-term labor that she must fight to survive.

By the time Kirby returns home, she’s nearly lost the fight but still manages to hand him their baby girl and request that she be named Wanda–after the hurricane. 

The story then follows Wanda as she grows up motherless in a town slowly succumbing to nature’s elements. We see the remnants of Wanda’s world through her curious exploration of and interaction with what’s left of it. Frequent hurricanes have been slamming the Florida coast so often that civilization has become nearly impossible. Bigger cities have started to evacuate while smaller towns–like the one Wanda lives in–are little more than ruins hardly able to keep their heads above the water. The only people still residing there are the loyal residents determined to fix it–like Wanda’s father, Kirby–or the people with nowhere else to go. 

When the schools get shut down, she’s forced to spend her days with a former professor and biologist named Phyllis who lives in a neighboring house. Through Phyllis, Wanda learns how to make sense of the world, and most importantly, how to survive– a skill that becomes ever more useful as the years pass by and the world around Wanda continues to deteriorate. 

We also learn that Wanda has a special power: whenever she touches water, she’s able to make it glow. Phyllis, ever the scientist, tries desperately to solve what might be causing this “bioluminescence” to occur, but we never get a definitive answer throughout the book. The closest we get is in the very last chapter when we see the community of fellow survivors Wanda has become a part of and she remarks on how other kids have certain, special abilities as well: one who is able to hold their breath underwater for an inhuman length of time, another who is able to talk to fish, and another still who is able to see clearly in the dark. It’s essentially chalked up to evolution, the natural adaptation that occurs out of a necessity of survival. 

Which brings me to the main theme of the book: the inevitability of change. 

Through beautifully written prose The Light Pirate teaches us that even the best laid plans can fail and survival is more about being willing to adapt than anything else. 

It used to be one of my favorite genres, but perhaps now that I’ve “officially” grown out of the target demographic of this particular genre of literature, I’ve lost touch with what’s trending in it.

Thankfully, one of my classes this semester is a YA Literature class–which means a syllabus full of juicy recommendations disguised as required readings.

And Aristotle & Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe was at the top of that list. 

I intended to get a jumpstart on reading it before the class would be reviewing it, but it wound up being so good that I read the entire thing in just two days. 

The story is told in the first person perspective of the main character named Aristotle, a lonely teenager growing up in El Paso. During a trip to the local pool one summer day, he meets fellow loner, Dante, who offers to teach him how to swim. The two quickly become best friends who complement each other in the best ways: while Aristotle is a melancholy, overthinker, who likes to keep his emotions to himself, Dante is optimistic and expressive–often acting without thinking things through. 

The beauty of the story is in how the discovery of the main character is entirely related to the unfolding of the other characters in the story. Ari’s emotional inner world is intimately connected to the world and people around him.

His father, for instance, is a very solemnly quiet man who has trouble expressing his deep emotions leftover from fighting in the Vietnam war. As Ari begins to recognize a similar habit in himself, we see his feelings for his father begin to change in intensity as he starts to question his identity and noticing all the things he is not.

Negotiator - Estrogen / Oxytocin

Who They Are:

The opposite of the Director, the Negotiator is ruled by the bonding hormones of estrogen and oxytocin.

These people were born to connect, and value their relationships with others above all else.

They are passionate, emotional, expressive, and incredibly empathetic. They not only seek to understand every person they come across, but they usually do quite easily.

Like Directors, they can’t stand small talk and would rather delve into deeper topics, especially those concerning ideas, morals, and emotions.

They are highly imaginative, with extremely vivid imaginations and dreams, hence they also tend to be artists.

While the Director is great at thinking systemically, the Negotiator is great at reading between the lines and making connections between disparate ideas or themes, what Helen Fisher calls “web thinking.”

They are intuitive and introspective, in tune and most at peace with their inner thoughts, emotions, and being.

They are agreeable and altruistic, which also gives them a tendency to neglect their own needs and wants in favor of another—a recipe for resentment. They tend to take criticism too personally as well, and can easily be overcome with despair and shame at the slightest perceived inadequacy in themselves.

However, at their best, they are an embodiment of kindness, creativity, and inner peace.

Who They're Looking For:

In love, they are looking for a “soul mate” or someone with whom they can share their whole selves with in equal measure with their partner. They seek to deeply understand their partner in life, and more than that–to be wholly understood by their partner. They are happiest when they are able to love and be loved in return.

Best Match: Director

Technically, because of the Negotiator’s agreeable and understanding nature, they can get along with just about any of the four types. However, like the Director, Negotiators thrive in relationships that bring them balance. 

Negotiators tend to spend a lot of time picking up on the subtle, non-verbal communication from their loved ones, and the Director’s straightforward bluntness is a refreshing respite from all the deeper analyzing. Because the Directors also prefer deeper conversations over the small and meaningless talk, the Negotiators enjoy frequent conversations that spark their inner worlds.

Negotiators also enjoy bouncing ideas off their Director mates who can easily and quickly provide helpful commentary and ideas that fuel the Negotiator’s imagination.

However, the Negotiator can also become disheartened by the Directors lack of emotional expression, seeing their partner as cold and uncaring which can lead to resentment and despair.

Overall, however, this relationship works to provide much needed balance and stability for the two types.

Explorer  - Dopamine

Who They Are:

The Explorer is the thrill-seeking adventurer of the four types, ruled by the pleasure-sparking hormone dopamine.

They value freedom above all else, the freedom to make their own spontaneous choices; to travel and explore on a whim; or to learn and fuel their natural curiosity for whatever sparks their interest.

Like Negotiators, they are also incredibly creative. However, while the Negotiator’s creative strength lies in their vivid imaginations and their ability to form connections between existing ideas, the Explorer’s creative strength is in their ability to generate entirely new ideas and their willingness to test them out. They are often the pioneers of innovation, the ones willing to take the biggest risks to make the biggest strides.

Like Director’s, they also prefer to live their lives in motion. They are extremely averse to boredom, and will do just about anything to avoid it. Also like Director’s, they tend to be more blunt in their communication, often saying the first thing on their mind rather than thinking it through.

They have a naturally cheerful disposition, an ability to look on the bright side and find the silver lining in just about everything. As such, they don’t take criticism personally. They adapt to new situations quickly, and can even change their entire personality at the drop of a hat.

Like Negotiators, they are very generous with their time and energy and easily form new relationships with others. However, due to their impulsive nature, they tend to possess poor time management skills. They are the friends who always show up late; cancel at the last minute, or neglect to show up for an appointment at all.

They are also the most prone to developing an addiction problem whether with drugs, sex, gambling, or any range of interest and behavior. Mentally, they also tend to suffer from hypomania or a  manic-depressive illness.

Who They're Looking For:

In love, they are looking for a “play mate”—someone with whom they can have fun, explore, and experience all that life has to offer. They want someone they can laugh with, a lover who is also a best friend and partner in crime. As they reach the summit of that mountain they decided to hike on a whim, they want to be able to share that spectacular view with their partner who is just as excited and marveled by the journey and the sight as they are.

Best Match: Explorer

Their rootless and unpredictable nature tends to make them an ideal match for other Explorers who can understand and even delight in the insatiable quest for freedom.

Directors are likely to be frustrated with the Explorer’s lack of rationality and logic while Builders are likely to be completely baffled by just about everything the Explorer values. The Explorer, in return, is likely to feel stifled by the all-or-nothing, logical mindset of a Director and completely suffocated by the Builder’s hyper-organized lifestyle.

Meanwhile, Negotiators may enjoy the Explorer’s creativity, innovativeness, and cheerful friendliness, but the Explorer is likely to become annoyed by the Negotiator’s deep need for introspection which can easily make the Negotiator resentful.

As such, the opposite’s attract theory applies more to the varied interests and curiosities a fellow Explorer possesses rather than the attraction to one’s direct opposite. 

Builder - Serotonin

Who They Are:

The Builder is the exact opposite of the Explorer and is ruled by the comforting, calming hormone serotonin.

Builder’s value loyalty, order, and community above all else. They are hardworking, persistent, and incredibly detail-oriented. They thrive in environments that are well organized, and even enjoy the process of organizing and planning.

They tend to be averse to unpredictability, or new ways of doing things. They prefer to stick with the status quo and avoid change as much as they possibly can.

They are pragmatic, practical, and cautious and can often overthink something to death before they take any action. However, their cautious nature isn’t exactly rooted in fear or anxiety. Instead, it is born more from their intense dedication to do things exactly right.

Though they tend to be more reserved and private in social situations, they place a tremendous value on their relationships–particularly with their family or other established communities they are a part of. They are fiercely loyal, committed, and appreciative partners, friends, and even acquaintances. They will remember the small things: your birthday, anniversary; your general preferences and things you’ve said. Like the Negotiator, they often and willingly sacrifice their own needs and desires for the sake of those who truly matter to them, and they have no problem doing so. In fact, it is how they prefer to demonstrate their love.

Like Directors, they also value logic and rationality. At their worst, the Builder can be stubborn, close-minded, and judgmental. They are also the most likely to suffer from OCD, or become hoarders. In addition, their perfectionism can lead to extreme pessimism, resulting in depression. 

Who They're Looking For:

In love, the Builder seeks a “team mate” or someone with whom they can build a comfortable, stable life with. They are the most likely to fill traditional gender roles in their relationship and home life, and therefore tend to seek partners who are willing to do the same. Above all, they want someone who will be as loyal and dependable as they are to build a family with.

Best Match: Builder

Like the Explorers, Builders thrive in a relationship of like-minded individuals who share the same values and expectations as themselves.

The unpredictable and unreliable nature of the Explorer is entirely unappealing to them.

Though they can appreciate the Director’s action-oriented and logical mindset, they can find the Director’s tendency to act without thinking very off-putting.

Likewise, though they can relate to the Negotiator’s commitment to community and personal relationships, they are often baffled by the Negotiator’s intense emotional expression and annoyed by their preference for abstract ideas over concrete facts.

Builders prefer to be rooted firmly in reality, and thrive with someone who sees the world exactly as they do. Therefore, they aren’t likely to be attracted to their opposite–not even someone with opposing interests.

If you’re interested in exploring more on this topic or delving into the science and research behind it, I highly recommend checking out the book for yourself. As an Explorer/Negotiator, Helen Fisher is a master at presenting the information in a creatively written, easy-to-understand way. You can also watch her TED talk or browse through her website.

Once you know what your type is, you can start to understand why you might be more compatible with certain people, and can start to be more mindful of your relationships, which can increase the likelihood of finding love that lasts.

However, it’s important to note (which the author does in her book) that your ideal match can be influenced by a lot of factors outside of personality type.

Your biology may dictate which type you fall into, but biology isn’t everything. Your environment, life experiences, how you were raised, your socio-economic status, and even timing has just as much of a factor in compatibility as biology.

For instance, a good friend of mine is a Negotiator/Explorer and was once married to a Director/Explorer. On a biological level, they should have been a perfect match. However, due to certain hardships they faced in life (particularly in regards to parenting and work stress), their marriage didn’t last.

My good friend has since found a partner who is also a Negotiator/Explorer and this partnership has been more rewarding and balanced and has lasted much longer than the “perfect” match they were in before.

In other words, when it comes to the question of whether nature or nurture matters most, the answer is always both, not either/or (though Directors and Builders may strongly disagree with this sentiment).

So take what you’ve learned with a grain of salt, and treat it more as an experiment; a way of understanding yourself and your patterns in relationships rather than a rulebook to follow in your quest to find your special person.

Because at the end of the day, lasting love isn’t something stumbled upon accidentally. It’s a committed and consistent effort of choice (which is perhaps why Builders are naturally so much better at it than the rest of us!).

Don't forget to connect with us on social media and let me know what you believe your type is (or, if you’ve taken the quiz, what the results were).

Do you agree or disagree with the summary or your type? Why?

What relationship patterns have you noticed in your life? How do these patterns relate to the points discussed in this article?

I’m curious to know!